Relationships...What a Kerfuffle

Aren't the relationships they show in movies great? The movies always fade to black right after the happy couple joins hands and walks off into the sunset. We then walk out of the theater thinking that's how our relationships will be.

However, if the movie kept rolling, we would see the couple walking out of the sunrise not speaking to each other. See, all that walking can really make a person grumpy. Plus there was that thing he said that came out wrong, then you couldn't agree on something, feelings got hurt then the in-laws did this or that and you felt like your opinion wasn't important and then the ex-boyfriend comes along......AHHHHH.

I'll tell you right now, being in a committed relationship is the most satisfying, soul-fulfilling thing that can happen to a person. But it does require effort.

I'm afraid that too many relationships are destined to fail because the people aren't compatible. If you try to make a go of a relationship with someone that doesn't share your core values you are looking for trouble. YOU CAN'T CHANGE PEOPLE TO FIT WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR! Don't believe me? Give it a whirl and see.

Physical attraction is important but will never be enough. The most gorgeous person in the world can quickly become homely once you get to know them. If you base a relationship solely on how sexy someone is, what happens when they get older and start to sag? Yup, it happens to us all.

I also think sometimes compatible people simply give up on their relationships too easily. Having disagreements doesn't mean the relationship isn't working. In fact, I'd be more worried if you don't have a squabble once in while.

My dad used to always tell me that relationships don't have to be 50/50, they just have to add up to 100. I know there are many days when I don't have 50 to give, but Craig always makes up the difference.

So, avoid toxic relationships. Cultivate positive ones. And if you haven't found that someone yet, keep looking. He/she is out there.